So Your Partner Is An ABDL*
You have probably come to this page because your partner has told you that they are an ABDL* or you suspect that they are an ABDL*. You probably have a lot of questions and are wondering how your relationship may change. Before we continue, I would like to say that "your significant other is still the same person they were before you became aware of the fact that they are ABDL*".
Questions you will need to answer together:
1. Does the ABDL* partner feel that their ABDL*ness is a part of their sexuality or would sexual activity while in a little mindset disturb them?
2. Does the ABDL* partner need their ABDL* ness to be incorporated into their sex lives to feel fulfilled?
3. Does the vanilla partner still see their ABDL* partner as attractive, diapers, and all?
4. Is the vanilla partner comfortable with incorporating in fetish activities like wearing a diaper?
5. Does the vanilla partner enjoy spending time with their ABDL* partner in a caretaker role?
Compatibility:
Compatibility is an issue in all relationships. In the bedroom vanilla couples deal with questions regarding intimacy and personal limits. Most people have pretty strong feelings one way or another regarding what they consider stimulating versus repulsive. Healthy partners discuss preferences. In healthy relationships no one is forced to do anything they don't want to. It is no different for relationships that incorporate ABDL*s.
If I had one word of advice it would be “don't compromise”. People have their limits. No means no in relationships. If the vanilla partner cannot handle the behaviors of their ABDL* partner and vice-versa, the relationship will crumble. On the flip-side you may be surprised that you enjoy many aspects of having an ABDL* for a partner. Over time most vanilla people become more comfortable with the various aspects of having an ABDL* for a partner, and in some cases vanilla folk choose remain active in the ABDL* community even if the initial relationship ends.
Questions you will need to answer together:
1. Does the ABDL* partner feel that their ABDL*ness is a part of their sexuality or would sexual activity while in a little mindset disturb them?
2. Does the ABDL* partner need their ABDL* ness to be incorporated into their sex lives to feel fulfilled?
3. Does the vanilla partner still see their ABDL* partner as attractive, diapers, and all?
4. Is the vanilla partner comfortable with incorporating in fetish activities like wearing a diaper?
5. Does the vanilla partner enjoy spending time with their ABDL* partner in a caretaker role?
Compatibility:
Compatibility is an issue in all relationships. In the bedroom vanilla couples deal with questions regarding intimacy and personal limits. Most people have pretty strong feelings one way or another regarding what they consider stimulating versus repulsive. Healthy partners discuss preferences. In healthy relationships no one is forced to do anything they don't want to. It is no different for relationships that incorporate ABDL*s.
If I had one word of advice it would be “don't compromise”. People have their limits. No means no in relationships. If the vanilla partner cannot handle the behaviors of their ABDL* partner and vice-versa, the relationship will crumble. On the flip-side you may be surprised that you enjoy many aspects of having an ABDL* for a partner. Over time most vanilla people become more comfortable with the various aspects of having an ABDL* for a partner, and in some cases vanilla folk choose remain active in the ABDL* community even if the initial relationship ends.
